As children our parents are our protector, comforter, and provider and showed us our first expression of love. But, in time if those needs aren’t being met, we tend to venture out in search for someone that can fill that void. In this case you will usually attract dependent people thus, forcing you to be in the dominant role in the relationship.
Doing this you allow your partner to become needy and enable them to always require the assistance of someone else to be successful. Or, we could find someone the complete opposite. Someone that is very controlling and abusive because they’re aware of your insecurities. When we don’t fit perfectly in the box that others design for us we begin to feel inadequate, in turn we make some unhealthy life choice.
Many times we accept things for what they are because we have allowed a dark cloud to shadow our vision of the things that we know we deserve. We have to realize that no one is put on earth to fulfill somebody else’s purpose for we all have a purpose of our own. All this time you felt like it was you. You weren’t able to make things work or your best wasn’t good enough, when all the while you were living the life of two people because he or she was incapable of living on their own. The hardest thing to change is someone’s mind. Until you have a renewed mind you will always be the old man! Remember as long as you are doing EVERYTHING, then everyone around you can continue to do NOTHING!
So, once you get your mind right, maybe others around you will change their mindset as well.